3 Great Tips On How To Save A Relationship And Prevent A Divorce Or Breakup

3 Great Tips On How To Save A Relationship And Prevent A Divorce or Breakup by Sienna Gillespie



If you are thinking "My relationship is falling apart - Help!" you need practical advice you can start to use right away. There are many points you can think about, but the quickest way to prevent a breakup is to go back to the beginning of your relationship. Check out these tips.

Women tend to talk a lot about relationships, and analyze everything trying to understand every little thing. And when things seem to go wrong, even though all this over-analysis isn't helpful, they end up doing even more of what is not working. If this is you, chasing your partner wanting to spend even more time with him, asking him all the time what's wrong, or what he wants... STOP! Whew!

Take a deep breath and stop doing what does not work. Immediately.

First Tip: Now, start to think about when the two of you first got together, were attracted to each other, enjoyed spending great times together. See those times in your mind like a video. Stop the video at a great time, and look carefully at you in that scene. Describe you...

I suspect you would say that you were happy, laughing, smiling, talking about your interests and activities. You were sharing important bits of yourself, of your life, your plans and goals in life.

Ask the hard questions: What has changed? What are you doing now? Many women start to take their partner for granted. And they sometimes stop being loving and attentive to their partner. They also stop being thoughtful and kind, thinking it is not necessary since your partner knows that you love him! Big mistake.

Second Tip: If you focus on all the problems in your relationship, that will be all that you can see. Problems. It is normal for intimate relationships to go through rough spells, to hit big challenges. How you can get through them is the key to a great relationship.

Focus on some of the great things about your partner. The things that you used to find amusing, or sweet, or attractive. He still has those qualities, but maybe you have been looking at what he is NOT, rather than what he IS. Big lesson here, that neither of you are perfect. He also may be seeing not just what he loves about you, but the things he does not love about you - like your messiness, or that he gets almost none of your time and attention lately. Love is not enough, you have to provide some kind of 1-1 attention to your guy. Make a list of those things you were attracted to in your partner, and fall in love with him all over again.

Third Tip: Talk Talk Talk...? But really, listening is even better! Maybe the two of you have been struggling to say what is important, but somehow the message did not connect. Men and women want different things out of life, out of a relationship, and it is important to recognize that your partner is a bit of an alien - he is not just like you, he is very different. So, make no assumptions about what he means.

Persevere in trying to communicate about the great things you both enjoy in life, or the fun silly jokes you used to tell, or the interesting things you used to read to each other. Communication is not all about hashing the relationship over and over and over. It is about learning to talk so your partner can understand, and about learning to listen carefully so that your partner will want to keep talking with you.

I hope these three little tips will be helpful if you are thinking that your relationship is falling apart or you are afraid of a divorce happening. If you start right away on going back to the beginning of your relationship, and see what you can do now to bring some of that great positive energy into the relationship - you too will be more likely to have success in saving your relationship.

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About the Author
Recently retired from the field of family counselling, Sienna is pleased to offer practical information for couples or individuals who are finding that True Love is sometimes hard work! Online resources to help you focus on strengths and positives are available, and are definitely magical.